Why do we women fall for the guy that is a total jerk, but don’t even consider the guy who will do anything to be around us?! The jerk maybe the best looking guy in the room, but if he is verbally or physically abusive, distant, or worse-cheats, it can really break a girl down!
I’ve met with many different guys through dating apps, sites, offline too and even through not very popular free chat line where you chat with people real time on the phone. So yes, I have a lot of experience. I think that when your dealing with a very good-looking guy, usually they already know that, and most likely they take full advantage of that. I’m sure they have a lot of friends, even more female friends, have been around the block a few times, and get the best of everything. So they get arrogant, and think that because they are blessed with looks or a body, that they don’t need to treat a woman well because she is easily replaceable! You may be physically attracted to them, and fall in love, but they have been conditioned to get pretty much anything they want, and if you can’t do that, well they can find someone who will. Then you have the guy that is not the hottest commodity, but he is still cute in his own way. Aside from having more personality than the good-looking jerk, he will treat you like you deserve. They will listen to you when you talk, offer to pay, they enjoy hanging out with you, and never blow you off on purpose. These guys will make you feel like a princess!
Through trial and error I have experienced both types of guys, and I must say that I am tired of dealing with the “guy that every girl wants, and every guy wants to be” when I can have the guy that treats me like I should be.
Here are some of the types of guys I have come across:
The bad boy
This is the guy that breaks the rules, he may be good looking, and he may not be the best. But he attracts you because he gets your heart racing. You do things you haven’t done before, but be careful that you don’t get roped into doing something you don’t want to. These guys also tend to be manipulative on the verge of forceful.
Usually this is going to be the guy that will initially attract physically, then being the skilled “player” he is, reel you in. He, for sure, has other women, so you have to keep in mind that you are not going to be his one and only. These are the men who know that they look good, and use it to their advantage, whether it hurts someone else or not. He is quick to break up in relationships because he knows he has other women lined up to be with him.
A.k.a. best guy friend. THIS is the guy you want to really look at, why is he your friend? He’s probably nice to you, listens to you, goes places with you and actually enjoys spending time with you. He may or may not be the best looking. Either way, knows that he needs to treat you right or you just wouldn’t hang out with him!! If you have never thought that way of your BGF, now is the time. Could you ever potentially be with him in a relationship, can you imagine it? Do you have any feelings at all for him, or ever wondered about you two being together? Just because he isn’t a model does not mean that you wouldn’t be happy. Love isn’t about looks, its about a connection emotionally.
There are all kinds of different types of guys, but these are the three main ones that I have come across. Just remember to watch what you do with the bad boys, keep Mr. Popular as your booty call, and Take a second look at the guy you always turn to to talk.
It’s all about knowing boundaries and how to counter-act whatever type of guy you get involved with.